This thought has been in my head all day today. Pregnancy, or lack there of. Why is it that some women have no problems concieving and for others it is such a painful struggle? Could it be chemistry with you and your partner? Are there some couples who are just destined to not start a family. The first woman that popped into my head was Halle Berry. We all are familiar with her story. She had tried unsuccessfully for years to have children. It just didn’t seem to be in the cards for her. It made me wonder if she had been partnered with men that her body deemed unfit to be a parent to her offspring. Instead of seeing it as a curse maybe it actually was a blessing. Case in point:
This is Mr. David Justice. This is Halle Berry’s first husband from way back in the day. There are rumors of alleged physical abuse and they ended their marriage in 1996. I don’t know about you but a man beating my ass is not a good recipe for daddy material. Maybe her body shut down after the first hit, which was a good thing.
Then Halle married Mr. Eric Benet. A smooth R&B singer who swept her off her feet. He even serenaded homegirl in front of hundreds of people on national t.v. Now I thought he was the bee’s knees. I felt like she finally found someone who appreciated her. He seemed to really love her. Halle even took his daughter India under her loving care. You know what she got in return? A cheater and a liar (allegedly). Some say he felt threatened by her success. Obviously, he was not the man for her. Though her heart felt one thing I think her body was saying “he might have some STD infected sperm now, so sorry girl it’s gonna be a no go, again”.
But alas all hope was not lost. Ms. Berry met this fine ass man right here 
Mr. Gabriel Aubrey. Honestly, I have never seen Halle happier. These two hadn’t even been together for that long before she became pregnant. She always said that she would never marry again after two failed marriages. Besides a great relationship she also wanted the next man she seriously dated to be the father of her child. She totally lucked out on this one. Her body must have been like “finally”! He’s got his own thing going on with his career and he just seems so laid back. Doesn’t seem fazed by her celebrity status at all. Maybe before him she was just mentally trying too hard to make those other men “the one”. I think our bodies know when we’ve met a good match. Physically anyway.
I’ll let you all in on a little secret. A few years ago I was seeing this man. For almost a year I put off having sex with him. I couldn’t explain why but my body was just like “nu-uh don’t do it girl”. He was attractive, fun, attentive, just an all around great guy. Finally after not listening to my gut feeling I slept with him. The next morning my vajayjay was on fire! I thought he had given me an STD. Turns out I was allergic to his semen! See, my body knew from day one that physically he was not for me but I decided to go crotch first anyway lol. If I had only followed my intuition I wouldn’t have been in vaginal pain for days. Yes, I said DAYS. So, my lil’ dumplings sometimes when your body isn’t responding to someone it might be trying to protect you and not harm you.
What about you. Do you think your body knows when a partner is good for you, or do you overrule it with your heart/head/crotch?
Till next time…
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Firstly, I adore Halle Berry. She will always be #1 in my book.
Secondly, her man is ridiculously good looking.
& lastly, I think it is possible for your body to tell you whether it’s a match or not. I’ve certainly been there (done that) & when I think about it, maybe my body WAS trying to tell me something about the past lovers I’ve had. I didn’t listen — my heart overruled my body — but you certainly got me thinking. :]
First – Yay Canada! Gabrie’s Canadian…I had to do it
And I agree, she does look tremendously happy.
Second – I think you always have an instinct about whether you should or shouldn’t hook up with someone – but i think in the heat of the moment it’s easily/usually overturned by…ahh…other emotions.
That was a wild story. I didn’t know a person could be allergic to someone’s semen!
desalination says : I absolutely agree with this !
oh. i didnt know it was possible to be allergic to anybody’s semen!
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I think you’re on to something here. And, sadly, my heart and/or my crotch usually trump my gut. I’m working on it, though.
Girl I totally agree with this. I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years and he wanted me to get pregnant and my body just wouldn’t allow me to. Good thing, because he turned out to be an ass.
Great post
wow, totally well made point, both with the halle berry examples and with your own. definitely something to mull over!
Somehow i missed the point. Probably lost in translation
Anyway … nice blog to visit.
cheers, Steven!