No not me! Not by a long shot. I’m not even dating. I just got news that a guy friend from L.A. has proposed to his girlfriend of 6 months. They went to high school together like 10 years ago but were never friends. Is it just me or is this shit weird? I don’t know. 6 months is NOT a sufficient amount of time to get to know someone. Shit the ex-fiance and I were together for more than 2 years and turns out I still didn’t know him well enough. I want to be happy for my friend yet I want to tell him to be a fucking realist. OK that’s harsh. I know. Maybe I’m a little bitter…maybe.
It just does not make sense. No matter how many times I try to wrap my big head around the concept of proposing after 6 months I can’t. Just. Does. Not. Compute. Strangely enough one of my best friends thinks I’ll be married by next year. He just has that feeling. Ummm I’m not even seeing anybody and as much as I have been hurt I doubt I’ll be married by next year. Though I secretly hope I’ll have a great relationship with someone amazing.
Then this scary thought creeps into my head. We’re getting older and I know for myself day by day the things I want and need become clearer. I no longer accept nor reward bad behavior. I’m more comfortable in my skin. I’m more comfortable all around really. So maybe that’s the key. Being comfortable with yourself and the other person. Maybe that’s what they have. Comfort. I always thought love had to be this grand, passionate, emotional…thing. Now I just want to be happy, loved, needed and respect by the person I’m with. No need for trips around the world, or expensive jewelry, shopping sprees etc..these were what made up my last relationship and I was damn near miserable because he didn’t respect me. Nope no more grandiose shit for me. Just be real and cool and lovely. I hope my friend has that and everything else he wishes for 
Have you been engaged after a short time dating? Did you marry that person? Has it lasted?
Till next time…
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No.
But, the people I know that are married either:
1. Got married after a really short amount of time
(meeting to married in under one year)
2. Got married after a long courtship
(five years and more)
It’s odd..I don’t know anyone married not in either category. I do think as you get older, you know what you will put up with. When you’re in your early 20’s, there’s the ‘ maybe he/she will change this’ period, which could go on for how long? In your 30’s, you’re like, ‘ I’m not going through this again, goodbye’, in a record time..LOL
I’m reminded of that line in Sense and Sensibility where Marianne Dashwood says:
“It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.”
Personally, I’d need more time to get to know my intended. I’m of the belief that for the first few months, you’re not really seeing the “true” person. You’re seeing the person they want to be. I’d need more time to get to know them, their family, their values and how they deal with issues on a day-to-day basis. I just don’t think a six month courtship would suffice. Then again…I have several friends from India and Pakistan who met their spouses once before they gor married and they are still going strong.
My wife and I were engaged after dating for only 6 months and married three months afterwords. We’ve never been more happy. I tend to think that when you know it’s right, why wait.
By the way, just found the blog and I love it!
I think the reason they got engaged after only 6 months is because she will only have sex when they get married…..