Fear of Being Lost.

I have this gut wrenching, can’t breath, I’m sweating my Dominican Blow out out,  oh my god I’m gonna die panic attack every time I get lost.  Or feel like I’m going to get lost.  It started when I was a wee one.  I was so gun ho about joining the Girl Scouts in elementary [...]

Ex Lovers Always Come Back

Ever had an ex-lover try to come back?  Sometimes the break up was mutual because you both needed time & space to figure things out.  Or you gave that person an ultimatum and they finally realized how awesome you are and  came running back.  But those examples are not my situation.  Oh no!  My ex [...]

Sometimes All You Have Is A Mattress

I have just spent the past 20 minutes looking at Los Angeles apartments on craigslist.  Even though I’m back in New York it’s just something I do as a reminder that I have to finish what I started here to get back there.  I look at the old neighborhoods I’ve lived in and frown as [...]

90 Day Sex Fast **Update**

Today is day 90 of my 90 day sex fast!  I am so overjoyed that I did it.  I’ve proven alot of things to myself throught this experience.  I’ve proven that I can complete something. Especially because I feel like I haven’t had a good foundation for the past few months.  It has also proven [...]

Career Fear

So I’m scared. There are a few moments in my life where I’ve acted out of fear. I dropped an honors English class because I was the only student of color and felt uncomfortable. Even though I scored an 11 out of 12 on my placement test and was personally asked by the head of [...]

He Read My Personal Blog!

I’ve been found out. Uncovered. Revealed.  Stripped bare.
Last night a friend/former lover of mine told me he found my blog.  Not this one.  I have a very personal blog that is specifically about my old relationship with the ex-fiance and the warning signs to look out for in abusive relationships etc…  Well he found it.  I [...]

Lazy Sunday Thoughts Part Deux

Dear Gary,
Yes today is a perfect day to snuggle.  Just not with you.  I know that the snow & cold has you feeling all warm & snuggly inside but I haven’t seen you in four years.  Those 2 dates we had years ago didn’t make me want to snuggle then and I still don’t now.  So [...]

Lazy Sunday Thoughts

* I should really continue to savor and not rush reading Eat, Pray, Love .  This book has resonated with me on so many levels.  From her struggles of leaving an unfullfilling marriage to traveling the world in search of a better self.  I’ve laughed and cried with this book and I’m only half way in.  [...]

Damn Girl Shave Your Hairy Ass Legs!

 
I’m laughing my ass off as I write this.  The above title is what my male cousin said to me yesterday after he caught a glimpse of my legs as I rolled up my jeans.  I don’t know about you but when I no longer have a man in my life shaving my legs on [...]

No Other Shoe, Working & Still Simply Happy

 
I have been waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Since leaving the ex-fiance I had been expecting to feel sad or depressed or to be crying my eyes out, but I haven’t.  Well that’s not completely true.  Two days ago I went grocery shopping alone and a slight sadness hit me because he and [...]